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I like to be sure, real sure about the decisions I make. So I listen to my gut, pray and look for proof that I am on the right track. Here are my notes…
If there was ever a time the statement, "I'm bored" from a kid was completely understandable...NOW WOULD BE THAT TIME.
Like you we're trying everything to keep ourselves and our kids occupied. Games are our thoughtless go to. We have a closet full of board games, cards, and puzzles.
Here's 5 of our favorite games that everyone, regardless of age, can enjoy:
What games are keeping you guys busy and smiling?
When we bought our house last May I found a bunch of random materials in a storage closet in our basement. I found wood, old glass windows, paint, flooring and metal fencing. I instantly came up with ideas of ways I could use half of the stuff.
You should know, I am a creative. I really enjoy creating new things especially from old things. I can find use of almost anything. The last woman's trash can be made into treasure. LOL I think I enjoy it so much because it reminds me of my childhood when you could find me building or fixing something with my dad. Every week marked a new project from fixing cars, hanging drywall, laying carpet, building dart board cabinets and soooo much more. Around holiday time we created and sold gift baskets. It was really fun.
Only issue... Very few of my dad's projects were completed. He had more ideas than he did time, other people's needs came before his own, and I think he constantly underestimated how much time a project would take. I took on these traits but in recent years have refused to not master finishing things. Also my husband made me promise I wouldn't have more than 2-3 projects going on at one time.
I've been doing good with that. I've finished more projects than I can remember and I'll share 3 of my most recent ones.
Upscaled shutter shelves
These took me about 4 hours to do over 2 or 3 days. Really the project took maybe 2 hours but I really wanted to get the measurements right and not drill holes before I knew the shelves would be centered, evenly distanced and leveled before starting. I did a lot of penciling on the wall the first day or two.
I paid less than $25 for the brackets, wall anchors and spray paint which I got from Home Depot. I already had the shutters. The process was pretty simple. I measured and marked the wall for where the screws, brackets and shelves would go. I spray painted the brackets from white to brown and used 1 wall anchor for each bracket. I also used a level to make sure the shelves were even.
This was a really easy project and it can be customized in many different ways. It took me about an hour and a hot glue gun to complete. I also used a cereal box and scrap fabric. After cutting the box about 1/4 down from the top, I secured the ends closed and glued the boxes together with the open sides up.
Then I sat it on the fabric and played with how I could get the fabric to fit the boxes best. You can try to use one piece of fabric and make cuts to fit the different angles or you can trace the sides on the fabric, cut it out and then glue it on in sections. With the second option cut a bit more around the edges so the fabric "panels" overlap and don't leave any of the box exposed.
I really like how it adds a touch of color and African culture to my kitchen. I also made matching place mats.
Standing Coat Rack
Our coat closet is across the living room so it's a bit inconvenient for hanging items we wear everyday. Also without any storage right inside the front door the entry way is often a mess with things we throw down or don't want to forget when leaving out (out of sight out of mind). So I built this coat rack (with help from my boys, Kobe (5) and Peyton (1)) to organize the front area a bit more.
I did this project in one day and used about 3-4 hours. I spent less than $20 dollars, borrowed a circular saw from my neighbor and used wall paint that we already had. It was a fun project. If I can figure out how to speed up a video, I'll post the recording of me building this.
I used a 6 foot square piece of wood for the trunk and 2- 2 foot 2x4 pieces we had in the basement. I cut the smaller pieces of wood in half to make the base. We added 2 robe hooks and 4 single hooks at varying heights and on 3 sides. Kobe choose the color which matches our accent wall adjacent from the door. It is sturdy and cute.
What projects have you done lately (big or small)? What kind of diy projects are you most interested in?
Parenting. Marriage. Veganism. Business. It all gets on my nerves and stresses me out. Some more than others. Each make me want to go back in time and make different decisions...
All the crying and whining and dependency, LORD, I can not. Kids are little people with feelings, desires and their own way of doings. None of this is bad but I have to manage my own feelings while not squashing their’s. SO.MUCH.WORK. especially on minimal sleep.
I don't like conflict. Trying to mesh two people's ideas and perspectives is a full time job. Let's not talk about the individual traumas, struggles and triggers. And then add the stress of parenting. Marriage is literally two selfish people (who may not know they are selfish) trying to live, raise kids and be happy together in an arrangement that requires selflessness. Whose idea was this?
I like to eat. I am addicted to sweets. Yet I want to be healthy. Those things don’t really mesh well. It's hard. It's expensive. And results aren't immediate. I am over it.
When I've read all the books, listened to all then experts, implemented the techniques, and money still isn't rolling in, I want to give up and do something easier. I've done what they said and still it's not working for me. Seems to work for everyone else but not me. WTH
...But do I really?? These are my thoughts in the really intense moments when I tell myself nothing is working out, no one cares and life sucks. Many of these things are not true or what’s real MOST of the time but these are some of the many thoughts that play in my head.
I could give you all kinds of techniques and advice on why and how to stay positive but I am giving myself and you permission to have feelings and to sit with them. It's okay to not be positive all the time. It's okay to be real.
Just know you are not alone. You are not the only one dealing with it. And it won't last forever. YOU ARE DOING YOUR BEST. THAT IS ENOUGH. YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB.
I have two boys. Peyton will be 2 years old in late July and Kobe will be 6 years old in mid June. I stay home with Peyton while Kobe goes to Kindergarden 9am-2pm most days.
I also run this (blogging, coaching, event curating, and production creation), I babysit about 3 days a week and mystery shop periodically. So I have alot going on.
Parenting in itself is a fulltime job even if your kids are in school because you still have caring for home, making appointments, running errands, and selfcare (which is an essential piece to not jumping off a bridge).
Recently, at one of my monthly 'Sistahs in Motherhood Support Circles' I realized one of the reasons I may have been struggling with my five-nager (a five year old that acts like a teenager) was lack of mental preparation and total commitment to gentle/attachment mixed with conscious parenting.
SIDE NOTE: For me conscious parenting is about love and transformation. Allowing our kids to love (build, correct, enlighten, help, and teach) us as we do the same for them. It's about recongizing their humaness and our own.
I enjoyed pregnancy (minus the lack of sleep) and birth. But parenting has been getting the best of me. I've been yelling, threatening, and plucking lips. These are all things I said I wanted to avoid.
So to get on track and start being the mom I want to be and the mom these particular kids need (forget what society or community says and thinks) I am reading 'The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Childern' by Shefali Tsabary and I pinky promised Kobe I would not yell or hit anymore (because that's not love).
I'm afraid to fail. But I had to give my full commitment aka belief in it just like I did with natural birth and breastfeeding. With those it didn't matter what was going on around me nor who was looking at me sideways. I said I was going to do it, I learned how and I DID IT!
This will be no different.
Are you on a conscious parenting journey? How is it going?
I coach women to prepare for and thrive as mothers via birth, breastfeeding and parenting education and self-care events. I am a Black crunchy momma that has something to say about how we create life, give birth, what we eat, how we connect with each other, and relate to $$.